Love Marriage Ya Arranged Marriage
Marriages they say are made in heaven
So whether its love marriage or arranged marriage ---they all lead to the same fate with the same person that destiny has destined you to be with.
LOVE MARRIAGES or ARRANGED MARRIAGES are just the means of finding a partner and entering into wedlock---they are not the end ;they are just the means to achieving THE END.
So whether its love marriage or arranged marriage ---they all lead to the same fate with the same person that destiny has destined you to be with.
LOVE MARRIAGES or ARRANGED MARRIAGES are just the means of finding a partner and entering into wedlock---they are not the end ;they are just the means to achieving THE END.
Marriages are a necessary evil ---and there are no set parameters which define a happy or an unhappy marriage.
Misunderstandings crop up so easily
between husband and wife
whereas its love,
which is actually meant to thrive.
The vows that were taken
are forgotten ,forsaken
the moment you come out of the holiest of shrines
The target of course
can be either--- to begin,
the Hubby misunderstands
your relations to your kins.
"Why did you smile ?at that tall idiotic guy??"
can be either--- to begin,
the Hubby misunderstands
your relations to your kins.
"Why did you smile ?at that tall idiotic guy??"
"he --is my cousin who came to say 'goodbye'"
"hmm...and stop backbiting at the back of my back"
"But !!never honey never ,I never do that!!!"
"I know you complain
about me to your mom
Our bedroom life too
is their object of fun.""
"Oh why honey why
do you misunderstand me thus???
why are you so cynical
and making all the fuss."
"hmm...and stop backbiting at the back of my back"
"But !!never honey never ,I never do that!!!"
"I know you complain
about me to your mom
Our bedroom life too
is their object of fun.""
"Oh why honey why
do you misunderstand me thus???
why are you so cynical
and making all the fuss."
"Stop shedding those tears
I know they are your weapon
I will never believe them
nor for a ride will I be taken .
"OH GOD !! give him sense
Or help me to die
How can I lead a life
with such a cynical guy.???
Or help me to die
How can I lead a life
with such a cynical guy.???
The scenario projected is just a one sided affair
the same scene may be found
when the bee in the bonnet of the wifey has stirred.
"Why are you so late ?
The office at 5
had closed all its gates??"
the same scene may be found
when the bee in the bonnet of the wifey has stirred.
"Why are you so late ?
The office at 5
had closed all its gates??"
"The traffic was congested
I am tired and exhausted"
"Hmmm....give me your coat"!!!
she flashes a smile
and sniffs at the coat
with intentions so vile
"Its smelling of a perfume
like never before
tell me where were you
with what pretty whore?
I am tired and exhausted"
"Hmmm....give me your coat"!!!
she flashes a smile
and sniffs at the coat
with intentions so vile
"Its smelling of a perfume
like never before
tell me where were you
with what pretty whore?
"That sweetheart is a perfume
I bought for you
the bottle is in the pocket
in a box icy blue."
"But how did you know
such a perfume exists
I am sure its a women
who on wearing it insists.
I am going back to my moms
never to come back"
I bought for you
the bottle is in the pocket
in a box icy blue."
"But how did you know
such a perfume exists
I am sure its a women
who on wearing it insists.
I am going back to my moms
never to come back"
"But darling believe me
Why do you so attack??
I have not cheated you ever
and that is a fact "
Why do you so attack??
I have not cheated you ever
and that is a fact "
"NO you are a liar
accept this you brute
all that what you say
is farthest from truth.
I 'll call the police and
my parents to sort
this matter with you ,and
our marriage abort."
"Do as you please
I am tired of you "
I am tired of you "
"OH!! so the truth comes out
finally from you??
You want me to go
so you'll have a free life
But listen here YOU man ,
however much you try
I won't set you free
I will always be your wife."
The above poem is a very true scenario and can be predicted and depicted as both; playful banter between a happily married couple or the begining of discontentment which will ultimately lead to bitterness and divorce .Its all a matter of how a couple reacts to and treats the issue.
Marriages are just a game of adjustments .
The one reason which goes strongly in favour of LOVE MARRIAGES is that in this kind of marriage one partner is not thrust upon the other Both have chosen each other and know each others flaws and strengths the plus and the minus and hence do not go into a shock after wedlock .
Whereas in the case of arranged marriages the partners at times turn out be a big dissapointment . Not always though.
Another point which goes against arranged marriages is the fact that its the parents who find a match and in most cases the boy or the girl feel obliged to say yes to the arranged match. They find it against decency to oppose their parents decision or to reject their parents choice .
At times arranged marriages are also the result of some sort of gratitude or friendship among the parents. The son or daughter becomes the sacrificial goat or lets say the bait.
Its because of this involvment of parents that most of these arranged marriages seem to be longer lasting --but not necessarily HAPPY if living together in agony can be called a lasting marriage Then arranged marriages score a victory .
When people say that most divorces take place in love marriages I say what is the harm? and this happens only because the partners have a mind of their own --and nothing is forced upon them.They are not forced to living together in bitterness and anguish.
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In the recent past we have seen so many cases of a man falling for another woman marrying her and then coming back meekly or being brought back meekly to the first wife and he and his estranged wife are contented enough to live HAPPILY with each other due to parental pressure . The man had fallen for a woman outside his marriage --naturally because he was not happy with his wife, but parental pressure forced him to continue living with his wife,( an arranged match) just as parental pressure and lack of courage had forced him to marry her . The wife too is forced to live happily with a man who had opted to cheat on her .
Aah... a HAPPY MARRIAGE .
The fact that more love marriages end in divorce is fast becoming a myth because even arranged marriages are now heading towards opting to end their Unhappy marriages .Another weapon people use is that children suffer due to divorce ---but I personally feel a child of a happy single parent is definately better off than the child of a fighting and discontented couple.
So marriages like I said in the begining are all a game of adjustments and its up to the partners to make it a success by reacting maturely and positively to a given situation and LOVE MARRIAGES certainly are a better option to finding a good partner who is atleast not a stranger.
Aren't we noticing an increasing trend in arranged marriages ,of letting or more appropriately, "allowing" the prospective partners to meet each other after engagement and before marriage to" know each other better" is society understanding the importance of knowing each other better before marriage??---------- a camouflaged love affair.
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