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Sunday, 16 June 2013

ring the bell ---to make the world safe for women

I am proud to be a woman!!!

why do I have to say this??

why do I have to justify the fact that I was born a woman !!! 

RAPE is not only physical abuse --the fact that a girl is made to feel ashamed for having taken birh is RAPE.

Is it a sin??is there something wrong if the Creator wanted me to be born a woman is there something wrong that I belong to one of the two categories that the homosapien species consists of !!.

Is there something wrong if  I belong to a  gender  which posseses the qualities of giving,loving,tolerating,adjusting,helping and supporting my loved ones??

Is there something wrong if I am endowed with the qualities of love ,affection, beauty,humility and humanity??

Why do I have to prove that there is nothing wrong in being a Mother,a sister,a wife a friend.CAN the world do without any one of the above mentioned qualities,attributes and relations?

 WHY are women not safe ? why is crime against women constantly on the increase? 

COMMITIES are being set up  to conduct studies  and find the reason behind this.They talk about making laws stricter ,  the latest is to make molestation a non bailable crime" Well this is a positive approach and hence welcome"  but the real solution to this problem is education{not literacy}  and above all an  individuals own "conscience".No problem can ever be tackled unless the cry is from within.To put it in a lighter vein "  you can take a horse to the river but you cannot make him drink." Similarly these crimes cannot be stopped untill the criminal realises what he has done !! HE  should know that what he is doing is worse than murder.He is insulting the existence of a fellow human being.Does he realise the repercursions?the humiliation, the insults,the feeling of helplessness the indignity a woman faces.Just imagine a crime where its the victim who is ashamed  and the culprit goes about strutting like a proud peocock!!.  

In this fake society of ours which does not tire  from paying obeiyance to mother DURGA, the man does not understand MA DURGA is a woman  MA SARASWATI  is a woman KALI and the most favourite LAKSHMI  are  women.Is a woman worthy of  being  worshipped only if she is made of stone  not if she is made flesh and blood.!!

 This is a burning issue which can be discussed incessently  but aren't we ashamed to be discussing it even in this 21st century.The topic is such that it will never cease to continue because it touches on very sensitive issues and if we talk about it it will go on and on and on.for eg may I ask who are these keepers of society who decide  the dress code for girls and women?  Leave women alone   let them breathe consider them your 'other half'  if not 'better half'  let the other half live the way "its" other half lives.

                                             Frankly this is not a fight between men and women it is a fight between the frustrated and the achievers.Frustrated people are failures in life and resort to bullying  them, who ,they think are weak...This group of bullies includes both   men as well as women.
  So the only way to weed out this problem is   to educate the society and let them see the heniousness of this crime show it to them in a way which  will sadden or terrorise them.It is sad that vested interests and sick mentalities all over the world have discriminated and shown women as the weaker sex whereas if realities have to be seen women are much more stronger ---they have to fight society from within and without ---they have the capacity to procreate --to give birth --they endure difficulties both physical and emotional and almost always come out  victorious.

   I don't know about the authenticity but I have heard and even read that the female foetus is stronger than the male and very rarely aborts itself naturally.   THE ADVANCED KNOWLEDGE OF THE CIVILIZED WORLD is needed TO HELP ABORT IT ---female infanticide and female foeticide to be more specific are the brainchild of the civilized world

  Real empowerment as we need it today can be brought about only if we educate ourselves and our children, to respect WOMEN and not by passing a legislation.  Here again its we women who have to play a significant role because THE HAND THAT ROCKS THE CRADLE rules the world .let us teach our children to respect women. .Because this evil is so deep rooted that it can be weeded out only if we attack it at the roots.

 We have to stop the jeering and leering attitude that men have towards women --irrespective of their status ,or age.


We should not look up to the male to give us empowerment we have to achieve it ,snatch it or earn it .  We should make ourselves important enough to contribute positively and gainfully to the development of society .Make ourselves indispensable in every field and PLEASE let us try to forgo the PERKS which make us appear dependents.


Don't Please sit with a begging bowl for the men folk to throw the crumbs of reservation policies etc from their dining table .


  For parents of the girl child I would like to stress that the difference is not in a girl or a boy the difference is in our attitude towards them .A son can be as good as a daughter or even better ---and so can be a daughter ---- when it comes to looking after their parents.Its the individual and their attitude towards their duties. 

Its just that we should give both of them the same opportunities in life and do our best to make them good human beings who know how to shoulder their responsibilities towards their parents and the society .


As for carrying you to the funeral pyre There are very beautifully maintained hearses; and there's no need to light the pyre either! the way the ecological imbalance is taking shape the  electric or diesel crematorium is going to be the trend .

If there is any way in which the government can help bring about WOMEN EMPOWERMENT  by law   then it should pass a bill saying that women need not adopt the husband's name  ones they get married; they should  be allowed to choose their own names and keep their own identities .This may seem a frivolous demand but when you think about it this is a mark of slavery .

  Why should a person have to use the father's name or surname for his/her identitification .
Its the mother and child relationship which is the only obvious pure relationship and does not need any identity proof. 

this is my entry for --ring the bell for indichange

Friday, 14 June 2013

in conversation with Akbar and his nine jewels

As soon as I saw this contest on Indiblogger I thought this was my opportunity  to put to rest the minds of   people who are always worried  and  suspicious of what I am chatting and with whom .

 I thought of  inviting Akbar and his "Navratanas" or nine jewels and discuss the state of affairs prevalent in the  country .

 I invited Birbal first, but he ,the sensible one that he is, said I should first seek permission from  AKBAR  only then will he or any of the other jewels think of talking to me. Now that was understandable ----he belonged to the times(era) when the king was the boss ;any reason of  displeasure and it could be OFF with your head ---not like today when agitations and dharnas would give such a headache to  the king  that he would wish he could order his  own head to be chopped off.

So I invited  Emperor Akbar ,and what a stylish picture  he made  wow !! that majestic aura was there but he wasn't half as fierce looking as Prithviraj kapoor  so when he came on line I asked his permission to chat with and interview his nine jewels he not only allowed me but also showed his willingness to join the group chat on " WeChat "

I couldn't have asked for anything better!! surprisingly he knew all about chatting and messaging ,mobiles and computers. Here is how we went about the whole thing .

I---salaam Jille Ilahi please let us start the conversation and kindly declare the chat session open

he ----let it be so ---let me introduce you to all my jewels -in the orange "achkan" is  -Birbal

I ---who does not know ......( suddenly  I caught Birbal's eyes he was warning me not to praise him more than required that could ruin the whole show ...hmm.... I understood and decided to play low and talk only when required.

he ---( obviously annoyed at the interruption ...but mughal etiquettes prevented him from being rude) .So here are   ..

Birbal---------------in orange 
Raja Todarmal------- in blue
Raja Mansingh-------in green
Abul fazal--------------in pink
Abudurrahim khan-e-khanaa------in brown
Tansen---------------------------- in yellow
Mullah do pyaza----------------in white
Faizee-----------------------------in dark blue
Faqir Azioddin-------------------in offwhite

We exchanged greetings 

 Then the Badshah announced----"this  lady   wants  to  interview  you all, please be honest and straightforward  in your answers "
All in chorus---jo huqm Jahapanaah!!!

I shot my first question --what do you think about the state of affairs prevalent in our country ?
They all looked at Akbar and said that they would like a tour of the country before answering this question 

Permission was granted but not before HE himself contacted GOD and took permission from him --matter of protocol---now that is what I call strictly following the rules  how unlike what happens today,no doubt their days were the  golden period  in  Indian history.

So it was decided that we meet after exactly one  hour as that was all the time  they needed to tour Delhi because they thought Delhi being the capital represented and portrayed the state of affairs in the whole of the country.

I logged in exactly after one hour and lo and behold!! they were all there punctual to the dot ---one look at their faces and I knew they had indeed toured the city 

The emperor asked Birbal for his report ---and this is  what he said

"We are lucky Jahanpanah that we don't reside in the Delhi of today
 Delhi is no longer the city of dil walahs (people with golden hearts)
Hoarding of money is what everyone is, in foray
Hoarding money is the main pursuit  the main occupation 
Honesty , piety love reverence are no more the situation 
These things are now missing
There is no consideration for humanity
 The only characteristic is money money and money 
The dignity of women is at stake  
All that rules is a society, which is fake"

Saddened on hearing this the emperor turned towards Raja Todarmal the Financial adviser 

He in turn said

"I am  aghast at the state of affairs
clothes and food are scarce 

 inflation is at its peak 
death and hunger and illness are playing hide and seek" 

It was Faqir Azioddin's turn now 
and he quitely mumbled

" the only way that may be effective and which may bring some solace
is to be very very strict with the law breakers
otherwise nothing would be saved and total anarchy will win the race"

Raja Mansingh who was the general of the army  too had nothing to say 

"I am  aghast and devastated
  corruption has even entered the forces

but  there are  a few people who are still honest
and they  may curb the wave which coerces"

On hearing ,that there still were some honest people  remaining Akbar said 'Amin' and turned towards Tansen in the hope that he would have some good news about music and dance and other cultural activities but Tansen too had nothing optimistic to say He  lamented that

" modern music Alampanah
has no characteristics of peace
and is  very far from the soothing effects
which makes music  valuable and worthy of feast "

Abul fazal

Abudurrahim khan-e-khanaa

excused themselves even before the Badshah could ask them anything,
they said 

we are  disgusted
and have  nothing to say "

Now it was Mullah- do- pyaza's turn and everyone was astonished to see him sobbing, all that he uttered was

"Jahapanah please don't ask me anything
we are all reduced to names of cuisines
 we are sold as 'murg do pyaza' and 'navratan' korma
 people relish us and eat us till they are bursting at the seams "

Everyone now turned towards Faizee Sahab who was waiting quietly; saddened  and in a state of shock ----when we asked him about his comments he said

"what happened to our teachings
we had handed over to the peple things like Din - e- elahi
and a rich heritage with a message of tolerance and love underlying
how come all that has vanished
has some bad omen fallen on the people to make them become like this ??"

He then raised his hands towards the Gods and prayed to them to bring more sense in the heads of the people and to bring better days on the nation .

On hearing his prayers and seeing him plead, we too all of us put up our hands and with tears in our eyes begged the lord to bless our country once again and to bring better days on our land 

After this we thought of logging off --we all had heavy hearts and tears ---I felt ashamed to be a representative of the times and people who had .brought about this deplorable condition on our country ---but Akbar said I need not lose heart and he was sure better days will come back again ---we all said AMEN  and then logged off .

It was quite late and I was so depressed that I could not suppress my sobs which irritated my husband 

"What is it now ? what has caused you to sob ?"

"Nothing ,you will come to know tomorrow about the cause".I said and wrapped myself with my blanket.

this is my entry for the   contest 

 "WeChat with Anyone, Anywhere!" on indiblogger and the link is ......

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