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Monday, 10 December 2012

Aur aap sochte hai Houswife Banna easy hai?

A SCENE 

FROM A TV SERIAL ,--- A MOVIE
,---- A NOVEL ----A HOME !!!

FROM ---EITHER ---HEMISPHERE-- IN--- ANY ---ERA 

T he sun rises to be greeted by the woman of the house beautiful after a bath ,hair washed with  perfumed shampoo, scented water or sandalwood ( according to the era which the episode is set in )---in short she is smelling beautiful and smiling beautifully. 

The sun smiles and blesses the home where the woman gets up before sunrise---and the blessings would be many fold if she is either playing the sitar or singing a bhajan --or has just finished her Namaaz and is seen keeping away the holy book----or is in the chappel finishing her prayers .


SHE now will wish the SUN good morning .and rush into the kitchen . 
emerging with hot cups of tea and coffee for the members of the family .and they in turn will give her smiles and a benevolent look.

Oh yes!!! and the gods bless the home which is swept every morning by the lady  of the house--- before the servants do. 

all throughout the day she is busy with all kinds of work but the media (visual,written) ,stories , ballads all project her as fresh and smiling ,.. 
there are manufacturers   playing on her psyche  telling her through advts how helpfull their   gadgets will be to her in executing her duties more effeciently and how they would   help her to take on added responsibilities --- and she wants to play superwoman ---naturally!!! the milk of human kindness and love for her loved ones is her ---identity.


Now the same scene , same place, same time , same era , same hemispheres only GENDER is different ---the male ---he is projected as a drunkard, wife beater, tyrant , gambler rogue in short a good for nothing .
Now the smart idea behind all this ---- society in general and the woman in particular become so conditioned that they unconsciously associate  

picture No 1. ---
to be their lot --she thinks she has to be sweetly smiling and sweet smelling always ,the epitome of all the above mentioned  virtues ---and she achieves all this too ---with pangs of guilt in case of a minor failure ;may be as minor as disheveled hair. 

----and she faces ostracism if she is unable to fulfill any of these virtues----in case of domestic violence too she is expected to smile and bear --smile and sacrifice --smile and consider herself privileged . 
And the men are supposed to be the sufferers if their mate or even mom fails to fulfill any of the above qualities. 


whereas PICTURE NO 2 HELPS MEN IN EVERY WAY --the womenfolk and the society again are conditioned to accept men as epitome of all those vices  --- and even if "one" of these vices is absent in the men around them they consider it a blessing ---its like
1,}what if he drinks atleast he doesn't beat me. 
2) what if he beats me he hasn't brought the other woman home
3) what if he has brought the other woman home he is not throwing me out. 
    etc and etc .

now isn't that smart ??? 

No Doubt men rule the world -----far sightedness at its best . 

This has been happening since the days of the GODS--and to add to all the miseries they call us the FAIRER SEX and we become the best targets for their fairness cream industry . 

Slim is beautiful so we are constantly dieting ---helping the family budget remain slim. 

they like us to buy jewelry and look beautiful ----another ploy of investment in gold and silver --will help later on in times of need ---naturally we wont be lacking in contributing to the family's hour of need.. 


Then there are lovely songs written epitomizing and euologising womanhood , motherhood . ---and we bask in their glory .???

POETIC JUSTICE

We deserve what they dish out for us --and ---they deserve what we dish out for them ----HAHAHA .  


AND WE LOVE THEM ALL THE MORE FOR ALL THIS 

PS---THIS BLOG IS A FUN BLOG---NOTHING SERIOUS  ---

12 comments:

  1. 1,}what if he drinks atleast he doesn't beat me.
    2) what if he beats me he hasn't brought the other woman home
    3) what if he has brought the other woman home he is not throwing me out.
    etc and etc .

    I loved this part best of all.It is not the other sex only which manipulates us--look how some helpless women are forced to delude themselves.
    Put a woman on a pedestal & see her conform!!

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    1. Yes Indu ji you are very right its not always the other gender only whoever sits at the top manipulates like they say "aurat ki sabse badi dushman aurat hi hoti hai"and on a lighter note at times its even the poor husband who is at the receiving end its a power game:))
      thanks alot for the visit and the appreciation
      regards
      rajni

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  2. Hey, Rajni, the best of works I gave read recently and yours best indeed! We have been manipulated though ages to seek justification of our being through serving menfolk devotedly and doing it more as a duty as to pay for our existence. I hear womenfolk around me saying that true woman is who bears everything without complaint. and who do complaint have missed on the greatness of being woman.....how ridiculous!!

    Hats off!!

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    1. Thanks Meenakshi --that comment made my day --so glad you liked it
      love
      rajni

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  3. Had a wonderful time reading it. Its so true! Actually everything has a different aim but its done for us and we are so gullible, we get carried away. Why is it always so important to be good and presentable before others. Why can't we be just our own self, though today's husbands are understanding and sometimes they do give you space...Not sure what real motive is.. he he

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    1. Welcome to my space Manjulika

      thanks for appreciating yes times are changing and we are getting a lot of breathing space hope the trend continues and may the tribes of such understanding husbands increase
      thanks once again
      do keep visiting
      regards
      rajni

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  4. A woman is often slave to her own believes and you have said it beautifully. I always like the sharp and clear way you pen your thoughts. No mincing words for you. Hugs~

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    1. Dear Ghazala
      and you never mince your words when it comes to praising my little efforts

      and love you all the more for that
      hugs
      and
      more love
      rajni

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  5. this is a brilliantly written post Rajni!!

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    1. DEBAJYOTI

      Thank you so much for this feedback feel elated when praise comes from people like you --am so glad you liked it
      regards
      and goodwishes
      rajni

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  6. History, unfortunately, has not been kind to women. They'e been suppressed in almost every culture.But, as you said..
    "We deserve what they dish out for us --and ---they deserve what we dish out for them ----HAHAHA ." --Hah, this wraps it up so well! Perfect read in the morning...thanks Rajni:)

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    1. Dear Panchali
      Yes History unfortunately has been rudely partial to women be it Sita ,Meera Razia Sultan,Rani jhansi,Joan of Arc, Indira Gandhi or even Anarkali they have all been given a raw deal sometime or the other in their lives but then Women are capable of emerging successful inspite of all hardships and that is where we win.
      thanks for appreciating ---its so nice to see you back again
      love
      rajni


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