Thursday 7 March 2013

woman empowerment





Women empowerment

What exactly is WOMEN EMPOWERMENT??---releasing a document saying that some seats (33%) should be reserved for this particular breed of homosapiens because they are incapable of achievements of any sort on their own merit ??

No!!! its an attitude---a belief --a philosophy -- a way of life. It cannot be brought about by a law enforcement It has to come from within..--just as corruption cannot be removed by laws --honesty has to come from within.

The difference between  law enforced  EMPOWERMENT and a genuine feeling of love and respect towards women is like the difference between EDUCATION and LITERACY .There is a very fine hair like demarcation between these two words "literate" and "educated" BUT there is a huge vast crevice in the behavioral pattern of the two ----and we all know that .

In order to bring about real EMPOWERMENT of women the first step would be that we stop differentiating between the male and the female .

I personally think and am sure 99.9% of all of you assembled here would agree with me when I say A man and a woman are made by god to compliment each other neither is in any way inferior to the other.They have different roles to play and should be respected for that .Just as every Human being should be respected irrespective of caste , creed , colour ,occupation or gender.

A mother,a sister,a wife,a daughter and a friend is as important and necessary for the functioning and propagation of the human race as is a father, a brother ,a husband ,a son and a friend ---society cannot function without any one of these.

Is there something wrong if the Creator wanted me to be born a woman is there something wrong that I belong to one of the two categories the homosapien species comprises of !!.and should I be punished for that.



Why do I have to prove that there is nothing wrong in being a Mother,a sister,a wife a friend.CAN the world do without any one of the above mentioned qualities,attributes and relations?

Can It.??

Will it prosper without all or any of them//
will this world survive without any of them.??
Then why ? why the contradictions?

Women are as useful and important to society as men ---Not more nor less.
They are both required to play certain roles which cannot be replaced by either.

There is no substitute to a mother ,wife .sister or friend
as is there no substitute to a Father,husband,brother or friend.



NEITHER MEN NOR WOMEN ARE THE BETTER HALVES OF EITHER BUT THEY ARE THE OTHER HALF OF EACH OTHER .

It is sad that vested interests and sick mentalities all over the world have discriminated and shown women as the weaker sex whereas if realities have to be seen women are much more stronger ---they have to fight society from within and without ---they have the capacity to procreate --to give birth --they endure difficulties both physical and emotional and almost always come out victorious .
   I don't know about the authenticity but I have heard and even read that the female foetus is stronger than the male and very rarely aborts itself naturally.   THE ADVANCED KNOWLEDGE OF THE CIVILIZED WORLD is needed TO HELP ABORT IT ---female infanticide and female foeticide to be more specific.

, Real empowerment as we need it today can be brought about only if we educate ourselves and our children, to respect WOMEN and not by passing a legislation.  Here again its we women who have to play a significant role because THE HAND THAT ROCKS THE CRADLE rules the world .let us teach our children to respect women. .Because this evil is so deep rooted that it can be weeded out only if we attack it at the roots
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 We have to stop the jeering and leering attitude that men have towards women --irrespective of their status ,or age.

We should not look up to the male to give us empowerment we have to achieve it ,snatch it or earn it .  We should make ourselves important enough to contribute positively and gainfully to the development of society .Make ourselves indispensable in every field and PLEASE let us try to forgo the PERKS which make us appear dependents.

There have been women achievers who have fought against all odds and emerged victorious the examples of Indira Gandhi ,Indra Niyogi,  Bachendri Pal are there for us to see --but more importantly we have Rani Lakshmi Bai the rani of Jhansi and Razia Sultan  who achieved so much in those days when women were mere objects placed behind the  Purdah system .
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Don't Please sit with a begging bowl for the men folk to throw the crumbs of reservation policies etc from their dining table .

  For parents of the girl child I would like to stress that the difference is not in a girl or a boy the difference is in our attitude towards them .A son can be as good as a daughter or even better ---and so can be a daughter ---- when it comes to looking after their parents.Its the individual and their attitude towards their duties.
Its just that we should give both of them the same opportunities in life and do our best to make them good human beings who know how to shoulder their responsibilities towards their parents and the society .

As for carrying you to the funeral pyre There are very beautifully maintained hearses; and there's no need to light the pyre either! even sons prefer to use the electric or diesel crematorium ECOFRIENDLY you know!!!

If there is any way in which the government can help bring about WOMEN EMPOWERMENT  by law   then it should pass a bill saying that women need not adopt the husbands name  ones they get married; they should  be allowed to choose their own names and keep their own identities .  Secondly why should a person have to use the fathers name or surname for his/her identitification ---its the mother and child relationship which is the only obvious pure relationship --all other relationships need proof for identity whether through DNA tests or marriage certificates ---the umbilical  cord is the only attachment which is genuine and 
foolproof 

17 comments:

  1. exactly, why do women need an approval from men to be considered equal? you need to snatch it. and yes, the umbilical cord is the only genuine and foolproof attachment.

    it was a lovely read!

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    1. thanks a lot DEBAJYOTI we have to earn our respect because only then will we be able to value it
      thank you so much for appreciation
      regards
      rajni

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  2. Very well written,i agree that reservations or all women banks are not the right answer.It is another form of purdha-what can it achieve?The empowerment has to come from within & for this it is essential that the girl child is not sidelined or subjugated;and boys are brought up to give equal respect to both genders.

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    1. Thanks Indu ji

      and this kind of awareness is to be brought by mothers ---because the hand that rocks the cradle is so important and instrumental in changing the attitude of future generations

      thankyou so much Indu ji for appreciating
      regards
      rajni

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  3. Nice write. Yep, women cant be empowered legally and they get truly empowered only when the gender-biased patriarchal society around them change their mid-sets.

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    1. Thanks a lot Arumugam ji

      Its important that gender-biased patriarchal society around them change their mind-sets.

      because attitudenal change is the only solution

      thanks for visiting and commenting
      regards
      rajni

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  4. I agree to each and every thought of yours and i second that...i think there's a need to change the way we look towards woman...!!!

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    1. thanks Anjan

      yes ATTITUDENAL CHANGE is the only panecea

      thankyou so much for agreeing
      regards
      rajni

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  5. To me the important thing is to ensure the law is enforced while we wait for some women to become emancipated or some men to realise for themselves we are both different sides of the same coin.

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  6. Thats the important thing Kay Em its time men realised that we are the different side of the same coin ---and yes the law may help by atleast making them aware of this fact

    thanks for your comments and the visit
    regards
    rajni

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  7. very true ! why do we keep asking men for freedom ..its ours to take !

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    1. thanks TTT

      yes why ask ,it is ours to take ---we ar also humans

      thanks for the visit
      regards
      rajni

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  8. Wonderful article. Yes, men and women are complementary to each other. Mutual respect for the uniqueness as well as similarities is what's really needed.

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    1. Thanks Tomichan matheikal

      thanks for appreciating you said it when you say men and women are complimentary to each other

      thanks for the visit
      regards
      rajni

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  9. Closing line says it all, but still some men show utter disrespect to the dame attachment and forget that its a woman who powered them to this world.

    Times are changing for sure, however slowly.

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    1. yes Meenakshi -----but for every one step forward things are pulled two step back by the high and the mighty ---so times will change but very very slowly

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  10. wonderful read , i believe in equality

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