Buddy Parenting---khushiyo ke pal

Like “sport” or “champ” of an earlier era, “buddy” has quietly evolved over the last 20 years into the go-to nickname for American parents, particularly fathers, looking to chum it up with their sons and daughters. “buddy” has for better or worse taken a starring role in the lexicon of modern American parenting.The gist of Buddy Parenting is that the parent’s goal is to be more of a pal than really the parent, the monitor, the overseer,” Friendship means “nobody is in charge.” Friendship is strictly egalitarian. Neither partner exercises authority over the other.

That much for what Buddy parenting literally is .

But put into practice Buddy parenting can take innumerable forms and can involve innumerable characters : parents, grandparents, teachers ,elder siblings , aunts and uncles  to put it in words anyone who is a well wisher of the child can take to   Buddy Parenting .

Buddy Parenting is of course about the kind of friendly parent child relationship where the parent is not a terror who should be avoided ,  who should be kept away from  one's likes and dislikes  one's secrets and some one who should never  be confided in In other words Buddy Parenting is about a parent or a guardian who should be exactly the opposite of all the above mentioned descriptions . Its not only about teaching and guiding but "about confiding and loving ".

In my case this beautiful relationship is between my grand daughter Ananya and  me . WE are both the closest of buddies or lets say the closest of pals bosom pals ,We enterred into this closeness by just a stroke of destiny --it so happened that she was put in my charge as her mother is a senior executive   in a multi national and  I volunteered to look after Ananya as a guardian .  I took charge of her daily life you can say this Nani ( granny) became a glorified Nanny with slightly more authority . Here I took special care that she become a perfect child  in every respect  of health, manners , knowledge, talents because I had to prove to the world and to myself that I had not  committed a mistake by taking up this responsibility. 

It was during this process that we became the best of buddies . She has given me so much popularity every one in this area  knows me through her because as a baby she used to be  very cute  so people started recognizing me as the cute baby's granny . Now she is  five years old and this "Nani and Anny" duo is the most popular . Every evening she accompanies me to the market and I tell her about the things that are to be bought . She with her sharp child hood memory keeps on reminding me about my requirements , at times I ask her " anything  else ? have we forgotten something ?' and she reminds me of the missed articles -. Once back home we get about keeping things in their proper place and she helps me do it all, in fact she has become quite efficient in housekeeping --she knows that coriander roots should be chopped off before storing coriander leaves in the fridge and many a times she admonishes me too if I try  to skip doing this  . There are times when I pretend that I can not find a particular object and she knows the right place where it should be traced , almost always she reminds me that I have forgotten to add Baking powder in the cake batter .My husband too never fails to praise her for her efficiency ----all this makes her feel so responsible and grown up  . She has automatically picked up the habit of keeping things in their proper place. I keep asking her about the next step and she keeps on telling me the correct procedure and the actions and acting which accompany her instructions make it all the more interesting for us . Her observant nature has always been of great help to find things ,  , she knows where to find what and also is responsible enough to keep the things back in the right place.

We  too treat her with equal importance asking for her advice and in the meanwhile not forgetting to tell correct her if she is wrong --and she doesn't mind this at all because we do not preach or admonish we confide .At times the correction is accompanied with  this kind of a dialogue ".... you know one day I too did this .... but then found out that this was not  correct so ......" and she doesn't mind taking the advice from someone who has herself learnt through the trial and error method.  


Isn't this buddy parenting !!

She knew I wanted to see a particular  movie and she kept on reminding me that it will be telecast on a Saturday but somehow I missed it on both the last two Saturdays ---then yesterday(friday17th ) she came at about 9 pm " sorry Nani I forgot to tell you its being telecast now --you have missed the beginning but you can watch at least the rest of the movie " Can anyone care so much for a person except a Buddy ?

She knows I have diabetes so whenever she sees me eating a fruit she asks me " are you allowed to eat this ?"and this query almost always puts an end to my drifting away from the right path .

If I go on narrating incidents I may never be able to stop because the fact is that she is  the life line of our family ---some one who keeps the clock ticking for us the two senior citizens of  who have no reason to feel old with her around .

We share a rapport with her which is so special . I Feel Buddy parenting is not about the child enjoying his parents " loss of authority " but its about the child feeling mature enough to be relied upon , he/she feels that even if he/she has committed a mistake its only normal everyone commits mistake and he / she is not  foolish or immature to have done that . 

Buddy Parenting can be put to  best use if we want to teach a child something because it takes away the drabness from teaching it takes away the high handedness which is so often resented by the child .

Thus Buddy Parenting is not about Loss of authority of the parent but its all about the building of confidence in a child and the establishment of a rapport which brings about love and trust .


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Love you Honey

In this fast food era any kind of celebration or jubilation leads us to a junk food store and we all , the young as well as the old and also the very old tend to drool over Pizzas, samosas burgers, and gulabjamuns and rassogullas resulting in large  to extra large bellies  and then we come across an invitation to a get together where we want to look ravishing and want to wear that ravishingly beautiful black dress but the mirror does not comply with your wishes and you are aghast on seeing those bulges hiding the curves ( for (girls) or those bulges hiding the 6 pack abs ( for boys) And we tend to go for crash diets which do more harm and less good these very low calorie regimens are based on the wrong theory that the body needs help eliminating waste they are called Master cleansers this involves drinking only a water , lemon juice and some other ingredients and nothing else for several days This does bring about   fast weight loss but this rapid weight loss results in slow metabolism leading to future weight gain .Crash diets can weaken the immune system and increase risks of dehydration , heart palpitations and cardiac arrest .All the shrinking and growing results in tears which create a set up of atherosclerosis .Crash diets can also cause a drop in blood pressure and sodium depletion.But its important to lose weight the best way to do so is to exercise regularly and follow a simple diet ---but what about the weight which is already accumulated ? for this start and stick to a diet comprising of fruits, vegetables, lean meats fish and whole grain and for that extra speed in other words to accelerate go to the shelter of NECTAR !!! yes known as  HONEY 

The nutritional and medicinal qualities  of honey have been accepted since time immemorial It has been mentioned in the Vedas , as also in Greek, Roman Christian and Islamic texts .The healing qualities of Honey have been mentioned by Aristotle, Hippocrates and Arab physicians too.

Over four thousand years ago Honey was used in Ayurvedic medicines to treat material imbalances in the body . The pre Ancient Egyptians used it to treat wounds The Greeks believed that Honey could help you live longer The Qoran also praises  the healing powers of honey .

Honey is specially beneficial in wieght loss programmes because it helps in digesting sugar , utilizing vitamins and minerals stored in the body thus using up many essential nutrients which are essential for dissolving fats and cholesterol.

Sugar lacks in vitamins and minerals that is why we gain weight when we eat too much sugar whereas Honey is a good source of nutrients such as proteins , water, energy , fibre, sugars and also minerals like iron, sodium, potassium.phosphorus zinc and calcium The vitamins present in Honey are folate, niacin, riboflavin Vitamin C and Vitamin B6 and it has the ability to mobilize stored fat .

Honey is one ingredients which is very very useful in weight loss diets .

Nearly all of us know that drinking lemon juice in warm water together with a spoonful of honey first thing in the morning is ideal for weight loss ---this is because it helps to increase body metabolism .

Honey and cinnamon dissolved in warm water too work in the same way and are supposed to be very effective in weight loss in addition it also controls cholesterol .

Ginger tea which is an excellent metabolism booster by itself works miracles for weight watchers/losers when taken together with honey twenty minutes before meals .

 There is another Good news for weight watchers and this one seems to be alluring too because it is called the HIBERNATION DIET --now everyone knows the meaning of hibernation so what can be more tempting than sleeping and loosing weight . 

Hibernation diet says that if we take a spoonful of honey  before going to bed either as a warm drink or straight from the jar it will fuel the liver , speed up fat burning metabolism and also ease stress hormones .This discovery is made by British pharmacist Mike Mclnnes  and his son Stuart a nutritionist .

Apart from these  benefits for weight loss honey has other benefits too it is good for the skin , the eyes and an excellent throat soother and also a purgative .

With so many health benefits Honey which is made from the nectar of flowers is a NECTAR  in the real sense of the word.

UC Browser's special gift to cricket lovers

This  is the smartphone era that means  you have everything from phone, to camera  to radio to the internet within  the boundaries of your palm or lets say at your finger tips .No one has the time to sit down and indulge in his/her hobbies  .Everyone wants to enjoy and work simultaneously they don't want to miss a single moment of their life every single moment is to be utilized so the only solution is a mobile phone / smart phone and the various apps  

.And as we all know  UC Browser is the world's No.1 third-party mobile browser with over 14% market ... In addition, UC Browser is compatible with all mainstream operating systems  .

When one  logs  in into  UC browser, one ceases to worry that any data, including bookmarks and settings can only be saved in one computer because in a UC browser  bookmarks, tab page, browsing history, and other preferences will all be saved and synced to one's account. Then, when we use other computers or devices, we can reload these settings by logging in UC browser anywhere and anytime. in addition if you download "SafeBrowsingDataBase" it is for  the safety of the browsing data , you can just download it and no need to extract or install and it helps in minimising or even avoiding some  typical defects identified through browser compatibility testing---eg

1. Content Mismatch
2. Inappropriate Response
3.  Alignment
4. Alignment issues on different web pages
5. Security Certificate errors - and other script errors

Knowing very well that Cricket is the one stop destination regarding out door games for Indians and the craziness which engulfs all, when cricket matches are being played anywhere in the world . and also aware of the working hours lost due to absentism  during  this period because the patriotic spirit takes over whenever the home team is playing and we Indians don't mind taking leave without pay and forgoing a days salary when  it comes to cheering our team  UC Browser for Android, India’s most popular mobile browser, has updated its cricket service, UC Cricket, with a  match reminder and an optimized comment section.

For all the cricket fans around the world UC browser has introduced a new feature called UC cricket which provides the users with information regarding the cricket matches. This will help the cricket enthusiast to keep in track matches between which teams will be played and when. 

The UC Cricket provides the following features

-One-stop cricket information hub--- here  UC Cricket  provides live scores, previews, commentaries, news, interviews, stats, photos, videos and more. It’s easily accessible with a single click on UC Browser’s home page

-In its Match Reminder and Comment Section -----UC Cricket provides a reminder feature which will send a notification before every match. For setting up a reminder one has to simply click on the yellow bell on the right to follow ones  favorite match, and one  will receive an alert 15 minutes before the match begins, even if UC Browser has been completely exited. Through this user will not miss any match of their favorite team

Comment section-----If a user around the world wants to share their thoughts and opinions about the match, they can do so via the comment section. User can customize their ID, and use emoticons to  interact with other cricket fans.

Now, cricket fanatics around the world can  enjoy without worrying about missing their favorite games.Even as a sit at home house wife I feel this facility is a boon because however much may  society  belittle a house wife's job we do work hard and round the clock to keep the house clean ,do the cooking washing dusting , then looking after kids , doing the shopping so where's the time for me to pursue my favourite hobby of watching a cricket match I can't afford to sit down and watch a match on TV or the Desk top ---so this is where this "UC Cricket " has proved to be a Godsend all matches and favourite players in my hand ---watch while you work ------no loss of man power or work hour. Incidently let me tell you I have been a die hard cricket fan , used to spend  school lunch break to watch matches( my school sports field is adjacent to the Cricket ground  here ) and my collection of autographs is a treasure. I belong to the era of Mansoor Ali Khan Pataudi, Salim Durrani, Prasanna Bedi and Venkatraghvan ,Chandrashekhar, Wesly Hall , Clive Lloyed, Sobers, Barry knights, Bobby Simpson Farukh Engineer  you name them and I have their autographs  --so you can well imagine what a trying time I have  been having all these housewifely years not getting to watch cricket with a peaceful mind ---but now  thanks to the "UC Cricket" facility I am back on the field and that too with exciting IPLs and twenty twenties  and other one day matches apart from the good old Test Matches .

UC Cricket.yes UC Cricket  is such a welcome gift for all us cricket fans ( that comprises of 90% of the Indian population rural and urban )

 http://www.ucweb.com/---is the link